I have seen something trending on Tumblr, and it has stayed with me and I was not able to get it out of my mind as I tried to fall asleep last night.
This is a video by Leslie Morgan Steiner, Why Domestic Violence Victims Don't Leave.
It is not an easy video to watch, but it is informative.
A few of the key points that are being highlighted on Tumblr:
1. "I did not know that the first stage in any domestic violence relationship is to seduce and charm the victim."
2. "I also did not know that the second step is to isolate the victim."
3. "The next step in the domestic violence pattern is to introduce the threat of violence and see how she reacts."
4. "We victims know something you (non-victims) usually don't. It's incredibly dangerous to leave an abuser, because the final step in the domestic violence pattern is 'kill her.' Over 70% of domestic violence murders happen after the victim has ended the relationship."
70%. That is a dangerously scary number.