My Matthew. He wasn't quite an infant anymore. At 27 months, he was teetering on the edge of being a rambunctious little toddler, but I still observe this day in his memory.
This day represents an important day for many families, an important day that we wish wasn't important. This day represents a day that we wish we didn't have to recognize, an event that we wish we didn't have to hold close to our hearts. In the United States, Canada and some parts of the United Kingdom, this day, October 15th, is observed as Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day.
A little bit of history I copied from the web - 'Established in the United States in 2002 and in Canada in 2005, October 15th is a legislatively recognized day to raise awareness for pregnancy and infant loss. The purpose is to increase support for those of us in the aftermath and for those who will be affected directly or indirectly by this loss. Many of us who have experienced loss through miscarriage, stillbirth or neonatal loss can feel silenced, invisible and alone. A grief that is not often talked about because it is uncomfortable but the need to talk is very strong for those who have experienced loss.'
People celebrate this day in many different ways. Some observe through family gatherings, some through community walks, flower or tree planting, butterfly releases, balloon releases, candle vigils and many varying types of remembrance ceremonies. Some observe with only silence and tears.
This day is also known as the International Wave of Light Ceremony, because every October 15th at 7 p.m. in almost every time zone, participants light a candle in memory of their lost children and in a show of support for others who have experienced the loss. The planned result is a continuous wave of light for hopefully a 24-hour period honoring our children’s memory.
My candle will be lit for Matthew, and I encourage all to light a candle, in honor of all the little souls who were taken much, much too soon.